Issues - Different Practises = Arguements

Life was so peaceful before the baby arrive.

You and your wife goes on night drives, visit the toy store on weekends and hug and cuddle each other while feeling the baby kick in her tummy.

- Face the facts, those time are over -

Usually it is never the parents who argue over how to do things.
If you read my earlier posts, both Daddy and Mummy should attend parentcraft, so both your thinking should be rather standard.

BUT HEY!

How about the grandparents? I am pretty sure both families will practise different ways of raising kids. So who should you listen to? Which technique should you adopt?

Usually i recommend that you take the technique of the side who is helping to take care of the baby.

Why? Because if you don't then it's difficult for that party to even help you, as you are saying no to whatever is said.

How about my parents then? (The other side).

Well, you will then have to strike a balance. If you feel that in certain situations the other family is saying something more logicial, as the parents, you have all rights to do things your way once in a while.

Let me cite on example for you before this post starts getting useless.

Example:
Daddy's mum say that Mummy should do confinement and not to shower or shampoo the head for 40days.
However, Mummy's mum say that she should do confinement, watch her shower and shampoo pattern, minimize it to as little as possible, but to wipe her body as she is breast feeding. It's hygiene.

In this case, Daddy should step in an give the final call.
It's your wife for god's sake! Do something!

Example:
Daddy's mum says that milk bottles (plastic type) should be placed in boiling water under the fire to sterlize before the bottle can ever be cleaned and tells you about the germs.
Mummy's mum however says that plastic bottles cannot be boiled and should just be sterlized in hot water, but not under fire.

Well, we all know that plastic are not meant to be under intense heat. That's why naglene came out with a bha or bhp bottle right. However, some older generation thinking are different.
You may have to step in to correct that.

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The above are just some simple examples where arguements can happen for no specific or logical reasons!

There is no right or wrong and it's hard to strike a balance, especially when the baby is crying for milk while you are trying to think straight. Or by the time you calm yourself down, he/she decides to poo!

So try not to argue. If you do get into an arguement, try to forget it within 5mins, maximum 30mins.

- Brainwash yourself -

Everyone just wants to do their best for the baby. Nobody wants the baby to come to any harm, so everyone is trying to contribute. Stay calm, stay calm, having a baby is a happy occassion.

Cheer up. Hug your wife, tell her you are a stupid fool.
You wife will feel you are stupid and laugh at your stupidity.

Then everything is over. Everyone's happy.

Anyway i am using a glass bottle by NUK. It's great.
If you are afraid it'll break, there's even a rubber "condom" protector you can buy. Shields the heat away too.